2 days ago · September 14, at a.m. EDT. (Nick Galifianakis/For The Washington Post) Article. Dear Carolyn: I’m a millennial guy nearing 40 with about 10 years of 7. You embark on one last messaging blitz just in case. You’re almost ready to go offline, but first you should probably message all those guys you “liked” or swiped right on just to make sure AdAttractive travel companions come to you! Try a new approach to companionship. There's a reason we have over twenty million members worldwide. Join Free & find out why! ... read more
After awhile, you start to see a lot of the same profiles on the same sites for years. One good thing to have come out of online dating for me is I have actually made two long-term friends. She actually sent me a message on a Christian site, we met and have become friends. I attended her wedding several years ago to a man she met online, but who turned out to be a sociopath long story. She is now engaged to another man she met online who seems to be a decent one this time.
However, we have maintained a friendship for over six years and he is someone I can socialize with and take as an escort when needed, etc. There has never been any physical intimacy. My female friends are puzzled that I can maintain a friendship and it does get a little weird sometimes, but I value his friendship. Still, I would like to find someone that I can feel passionate about and excited to see.
Well, sorry this is so long. The best of luck to all of you reading this post. My personal experience has been that men tend to fib about their height and their fitness, which seems silly. Wow, why would any women want to be with a man that shallow? Humans are imperfect beings and that imperfection makes us human…. Overall I think you approach online dating with a sense of humor and the thinking that you could always meet someone interesting that may not be a potential partner but certainly a friend.
Have fun with it. Be yourself. Find the humor in those crazy dates. I keep my gal pals totally entertained when we get together with stories from my dates….
And yeah I have met someone! Is he perfect? Says he wants to me at woman who is young enough to still have kids. Good luck with that! Much has been assumed in the advice I have been given here. I gave three examples of my experience online. They were not by any means the only experiences I had. I met and chatted with many men, during each time I gave online dating a try. Each of those times I was online for about 6 months or more at a time. And each time, the guys who reached out to me either just winked, which I consider a cop out, and if they did comment, they were just not my type at all.
The men I wanted to meet never responded to any of my messages. It was very frustrating. Because if they did read, they would realize there is very little we have in common. If you start dating a man, it is assumed you are exclusive with him and that the relationship is going somewhere.
If I were to treat dating like a game, or date several men at a time, it would be seen as shallow and I would be considered a tease. These men would see me as a player and not a sincere lady looking for a real relationship.
They would assume I was looking primarily for sex, and treat me as such. But this advice does not help me. I apologize for getting that wrong.
I think that some just send out formula messages hoping that if they send enough out there, some will land in willing in-boxes. The key to this is to be up front from the beginning that we plan to meet and date several people until we feel drawn to a deeper relationship with someone.
At that point it will be time to discuss exclusivity — not before the first coffee has cooled off. I hope other readers will share their points of view and keep the conversation going. We can all learn from each other. Great advice as always. First, you need to understand the dynamics. The men are the hunters and the women are the hunted. What this creates is a swarm around the women. After probably well over dates I would think what I have found is that for every messages a woman gets a man might get Now, look at those odds.
Was what he said right? Hell no! It was his immature way of showing his frustration and venting on you as you were handy. With people moving further and further away from the urban setting your face to face meeting may not always be feasible.
So, I travel miles for a date in the Seattle area or 3 hours to a date or dance class in Spokane!! It is what it is. So, will I give up on on-line dating? What is the other choice. Would I be with the wrong person just to be with someone?
Of course not. The same things women complain about men for. But, some of us take it seriously and do want to find love, companionship, intimacy, friendship and oh yes, sex please. Just one mans perspective. I meant that we should lighten up and enjoy it. And I am Men assume that women are swamped with messages, maybe because men SEND millions of messages because they are used to playing the field.
On one of the sites I did get a lot of message from…men 20 or even 30 years younger! They just wanted to get some sex.
So yes, I might have gotten close to a messages, but how many of those were the ones to which I would have wanted to respond? Do men play the field? You bet! Oh wait, women do too!!! For a nice dinner, date, sex whatever. However, some comments are not welcome here as violations of our Comment Policy. If you would like to express a comment about Senior Planet locations or programs, please contact supporters seniorplanet.
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Send Joan your questions by emailing sexpert seniorplanet. All information is confidential. Reply to Nathalie. Reply to Liza. LOL Anyway I just wanted to take the time to share that and say thanks Joan. Reply to LadyLovinHerLife. Reply to Joan Price. Reply to Rose. Reply to Onlinedatingsux. First of all thanks Joan It can be a minefield. Regards Preet. Reply to Preet Kaur. Thanks for the article, I found it to be very informative.
Reply to Ipotlove. Reply to Sunnyday. Reply to LindaG. Humans are imperfect beings and that imperfection makes us human… Overall I think you approach online dating with a sense of humor and the thinking that you could always meet someone interesting that may not be a potential partner but certainly a friend.
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When is it time to give up on online dating? Is it that you got your heart broken multiple times? Is it that time you try to find your perfect match all in vain? When should you give up online dating? Giving up is seen as a bad idea, but sometimes, it might be the best decision. Wasting your time with little success in online dating platforms eats up that time you should be enjoying moments.
Have you ever gotten yourself swiping the endless pages of profiles on an online dating platform? You find some guy whose profile picture pulls you but the interests send you away? You never reach at that right profile for you, it might be time to try another option.
Do you feel like your heart yearns for something physical. Do you find yourself imaging a meeting with someone on a bus and talking to them? Then online dating might be the wrong option for you. You need to go physical by giving up on online dating. The first person you met was interesting, so you gave them a chance. Later these people heart broke you and you vowed to try again. You went in for more others who ended up in a bad way. It might be time to look for another option.
Keep away that profile and try some physical meetings, they might have been long waiting to deliver your success. Giving up means bringing down your online dating platform profile. Take the following steps to quit in a safe manner.
If you feel like giving up today, it might not be the time yet.
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Subscribers receive The Weekly Orbit, our newsletter with features about personal finance, health and fitness, technology tips, an online book club, sex and relationships and more! As a senior woman, my online dating experience has been abysmal. I have tried it three times in all, each separated by a year or so. The first time, I was chatting with a man online. I was a bit shocked at the request. The second man seemed interesting, and we met for coffee, but he seemed fascinated by the whole online dating thing and viewed it as a great social experiment.
He wanted to compare notes about our experiences. He asked me one question after another, but none of them were get-to-know-you date questions. The third and last time I tried online dating, a guy initiated a conversation by email. He begged me not to, claiming this was his last chance at meeting women, and to please give him another chance. I am not a gambler, and meeting men from a website is too much of a gamble for me. Why are so few man putting themselves out there to meet women and develop relationships?
You tried online dating three times over a period of three years. But the truth is this: Online dating is where the single seniors are. Think about it: Your future partner is sitting home wondering how to meet a woman like you. Probably join a few online dating sites, post a profile and start scrolling through profiles that interest him. Yes, there are some creeps online. Removing your profile and quitting the site hurt you, not him.
The creeps are a very small minority. I like what your second guy did. They do, just as we do. I know you see online dating as a gamble, but I encourage you to view it as a game instead. You can contact as many or as few as you like. You can meet someone or decide not to. You make your own rules. Thanks for the article.
It was very well done, well thought out, and explained perfectly and clearly. I tried a few paid online dating sites without much luck. I take care of myself. Men wanting JUST sex. Interested in a FWB. Married men. Couples interested in a third. Very rarely did I ever get messaged by a decent guy. Sometimes, rarely as well, would ever get a message back after I messaged someone I thought sounded real.
That I get a lot. Guys disappearing on me. Rejecting me. Not responding. A few dates that were okay. No nice dinner and drinks, just sex. Men just skip the whole taking a woman out and want to jump right into bed. After 5 years of unsuccessful online dating. I have no family here either. I spent months on my self.
I took very good care myself. I stopped all online activity. It was all about me. This time I give up totally. The scammers out for blood. The men just wanting a hookup. I was frustrated and I took it out on you. I have lowered my standards, I have broadened my parameters, I have chatted with many men. And what I said about dating here in my little central Wisconsin town is still true. Those men would definitely feel taken advantage of and would most likely not continue the relationship.
So I have to be a little careful about how I am perceived by the public. You would be proud to know that I am still out there trying to online date even though it is extremely difficult. I just think a lot of men have this ideal notion that they can still get a young woman who is perfect for them.
For example, there is a man I found online who lives in a town 20 minutes away from me. We have a lot in common, and I mean a lot more than usual. And this is just one example of how online dating is so frustrating. I appreciate that you wanted to check in , re-evaluate your earlier response, and update us. One inch taller is a deal-breaker? The trick, I think, is to differentiate between the changes that would go against what we like about ourselves, and which ones might be growth. Yes, online dating is frustrating, but how else do we meet other single seniors?
Good for you sticking with it! Yes I agree. On line dating sites have been a big disappointment for me. So my question is what should a gentleman do that is 62 years old and single but still looking for a single woman? I am in a different part of the country but many of your comments rang true with me in this area also! I am in a college town, a fair amount of cultural events, K population, and not many responses! Maybe I need to expand my acceptance level?
How far do you compromise? It is much harder at my age! I guess I may be naieve as to the amount of fake profiles? I take care of my appearance, am educated, self examined, and yet by far most contacts are only interested in the first part, not that I can hold an intelligent conversation or know who I am.
Am I missing something about compatibility? LOL, might as well laugh! I definitely realize we are all older and am not looking for youth just someone who shows they care to put their best foot forward. I am still looking, have been off for at the most 3 months at a time. I am just frustrated that in 5 years, the pool rarely changes. Seems men who have taken care of their appearance, are financially and emotionally stable are either fake or looking for someone 20 years younger!
I hate online dating. Whatever happened to real dating in real time? It can be a minefield. I am It was so much fun at first to realize there were many decent, attractive, successful men out there who were actually nice to me after such a bad marriage 28 yrs.
I made mistakes, fell in love too quickly and learned the ropes along the way. The last man I dated, started out really nice, then changed. I ended up getting Herpes 2 from him. Confirmed w blood test it was him Now, I, being honest fear no one will want me because of that. I concur with all of the comments here. Online dating is very frustrating and, increasingly expensive, since more sites are charging a fee to even send or reply to a message.
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And I am Subscribers receive The Weekly Orbit, our newsletter with features about personal finance, health and fitness, technology tips, an online book club, sex and relationships and more! By Joan Price Tuesday, February 3, 21 Comments Share This: Want to learn more about senior sex and relationships? And yeah I have met someone! You never reach at that right profile for you, it might be time to try another option. Then online dating might be the wrong option for you.Take advantage of that spirit and go off the online dating site. They were not by any means the only experiences I had. I keep my gal pals totally entertained when we get together with stories from my dates…. Interested in a FWB. Hell no!